Move From Disconnection to Deep Connection
Couples Counseling
Couples counseling is a space to look at your relationship with clarity, compassion, and curiosity. Whether you’re experiencing conflict, growing apart, or feeling stuck in painful cycles, therapy helps you slow everything down, understand what’s happening beneath the surface, and rebuild a deeper connection.
Relationships heal through understanding, attunement, and learning to respond to each other’s needs in new ways. Couples counseling offers practical tools and emotional insight so you can reconnect with one another in a more secure, loving, and sustainable way.
What Couples Seek Therapy
Every couple faces challenges. Therapy is often helpful when you’re experiencing:
Repeating arguments that never resolve
Feelings of disconnection or drifting apart
Breaks in trust or emotional distance
Difficulty communicating needs
Longstanding resentment or tension
Life transitions (parenthood, moves, career shifts)
Emotional or physical intimacy issues
Differences in conflict styles
Confusion about the relationship’s future
Couples therapy is also valuable for strengthening healthy relationships, deepening intimacy, and learning new ways to support one another.
What Creates Relationship Distress
Most relationship struggles are not about the surface issue, they actually come from deeper emotional patterns like:
Feeling unseen or unheard
Fear of vulnerability or rejection
Past attachment wounds getting activated
Differences in how you manage stress
Unspoken expectations or assumptions
Difficulty accessing emotions in the moment
Old stories about love, safety, or conflict
Cultural or family patterns around closeness
Pressure from work, parenthood, or life demands
When these deeper needs stay unspoken, couples get stuck in cycles that feel painful and often impossible to change without support.
Common Relationship Patterns
Couples often find themselves in predictable dynamics, such as:
The Pursuer–Withdrawer Cycle
One partner seeks closeness, the other pulls away to avoid conflict.
The Critic–Defender Pattern
One expresses frustration through criticism, the other becomes defensive or shut down.
Parallel Lives
Both partners function well but feel distant, disconnected, or emotionally separate.
High-Conflict Loop
Arguments escalate quickly and feel draining, repetitive, or out of proportion.
Avoidance of Hard Conversations
Issues get pushed aside until resentment builds.
How Couples Counseling Helps
Couples therapy focuses on strengthening emotional safety, improving communication, and healing the patterns that keep you stuck.
My approach integrates:
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): To understand the emotional needs driving conflict and to create secure, lasting connection.
Attachment-Based Relationship Work: To make sense of how past attachment wounds show up in present dynamics.
Relational & Psychodynamic Exploration: To uncover the stories, fears, and emotions beneath the arguments, not just the content.
Communication & Conflict Skills: To help you slow down, listen differently, and express needs without escalation.
Repair & Rebuilding Trust: To heal breaks in the relationship and strengthen your sense of safety.
Couples counseling helps you move from disconnection to closeness, from defensiveness to understanding, and from frustration to real partnership.
Who I Work With
I support couples navigating:
Communication issues
Emotional or physical distance
Conflict cycles
Trust, infidelity or attachment injuries
Parenting or family stress
Life transitions
Differences in intimacy or desire
Cultural or identity differences
Pre-marital or long-term partnership support
High-achieving couples managing stress and pressure
What Couples Therapy Sessions Look Like
In therapy, we will:
Slow down the interactions that feel chaotic or stuck
Understand the deeper emotions beneath anger, shutdown, or frustration
Identify the patterns you fall into and why they make sense
Support each partner in expressing needs clearly and safely
Rebuild trust, intimacy, and empathy
Learn how to repair after conflict
Strengthen your bond so you feel supported, not alone